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Goodbye, Stella

Yesterday Orange and I had the boi/ys over to the house so naturally I wasn't taking phone calls. Around 5pm I noticed a voicemail alert. "Stella's in ICU. [Details redacted to protect her privacy] If you want to say goodbye, you need to get here today." That message was left at 2:45. I tried to get ahold of her daughter to let her know that I was on my way. About 10 minutes into the drive, I finally got ahold of her. Stella went at 4:25. If I had picked up the phone when the message was left, I still wouldn't have made it.

When Orange and I started making a guest list for our wedding, Stella was the one 'nilla that I really wanted to come (other than our families). She's been my friend for over eight years. Our eclectic tastes meshed is so many ways, and she knew and supported my lifestyle activities. One year she threw a Halloween party at her house and let me tie my little girl up in her living room because she wanted to see what it was that I did. We would laugh and cry together...more often than not we'd end up laughing over what started us crying.

Thanksgiving day I made a trip to the hospital so that she could hear "Alice's Restaurant" because that's what you listen to on Thanksgiving. As I left, I leaned in and told her that she couldn't be too sick because she had to make it to my wedding in May. She said "damned right." I'm sad that she's gone, but at least she's not enduring what I've seen so many people go through. She left this world surrounded by friends and family, knowing that she was loved. 

Goodbye, Stella. By now I'm sure you've hunted down a smoke and a bourbon, yelled at Robert Heinlein and Robert Jordan, and started the first Afterlife Dart League. I will miss you. My life is better because I knew you, loved you, and we called each other friends.


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Dec. 25th, 2009 09:06 pm (UTC)
You and Orange are getting MARRIED ?!?!?!?!
Dec. 25th, 2009 10:05 pm (UTC)
Stella is one of those people i truly wish i had met sooner. She was an amazing person. i'll never forget the stories she shared with me on dart nights, or the coaching she gave me. Farewell Stella. You will be missed.
Dec. 26th, 2009 12:06 am (UTC)
She sounds like someone really special. I'm sorry for your loss.
Dec. 26th, 2009 12:38 am (UTC)

Sorry for your loss.
Dec. 26th, 2009 01:12 am (UTC)
Dec. 26th, 2009 05:37 am (UTC)
Wow what a wonderful tribute. I am sure that she is causing a ruckus in the afterlife from the way you put it. Sounds like a amazing woman. My sympathy to you and all her friends.
Dec. 26th, 2009 06:58 pm (UTC)
May she rest easy. ♥

Coincidentally, Alice's Restaurant is THEE Thanksgiving Day movie in this house - long standing tradition with my mom. ;)
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